I have just recently got an order of protection placed an my husband about 2 weeks ago and since he has been out of the home I have never felt better in 12 years. We have two children (2 and 5) and I want them to grow up healthy and have healthy relationships. I have gone to see a pastor and a marital counselor in this time they said I was a codependent. Which I did not understand until I just looked it up on CoDA foundations where they explain patterns and characteristics. Wow was that a wake up call Cuz 90% of that was me.